Be with the ones who inspire you

Hello my friends……

In my professional life I have met many who don’t want to help themselves and have come to the conclusion, that you really can’t help a person who does not want to help themselves but when it’s in your personal life how much more powerful is that truth!

What is happening in my life at this point is Change.

Change as they say is as good as a holiday. Well, yes after 10 years of not having a holiday, I am looking forward to my little escape… let me explain.

I am still living in the house that I shared with my now ex wife and my 2 beautiful daughters. When they left I thought great, now I have a big house to myself… Lets get a house mate in…….
 
Do you remember that old saying “You become who you surround yourself with?   OH BOY!!!!!!
My friends this is so true. I have lost most of my desire to do anything.

You see my house mate has no desire to live life. All his desires seem to revolve around getting home and playing with his X-Box. There is NO desire to help in the domestic situation, simple things like in cooking for example and he certainly has no desire for life!! If I don’t cook… then there is no dinner. If I do not clean the house e.g. vacuum, mop, cut the grass, clean the pool……There is nothing done. I think you get the message!

What does one do?

Here is the rest of the story. I lost it tonight !

3 months ago I said this is not working and I need to move on. All good, I think he understood what I was feeling. So I gave him a date and thought he would get his shit together. No No No! He has not lifted a finger to sought his things out and on top of that, wants me to do the things we agreed so he did not have to store his things….e.g. gym, camper and lots of books and magazines.

Tonight I said “no more,” as his passion is to do nothing… GET OUT!

I am happy with my decision (he is not) because I have given all to get him to take command of his own life!!! It is not up to anyone but him to take charge and only him. There are only so many speeches you can give and advice you can whisper. The point being is that you can go to your best friend and say “don’t play with fire” and as they do, they say yeah, yeah mate. The next day they are lighting a bomb fire! At this point you have to decide! Can I keep making an effort to help, or let them burn.

My Dad always told me to keep my hands away from the fire, but he stopped saying it one day. Guess what happened, he wasn’t looking and I put my hand in the fire. OUCH!! MUMMY! I burnt myself. Dad appears and what do you think he said?

I think you get the point.

Listen to your peers, look at what they do but most of all ask the questions, search for the moral and right answer that suits you, take it all in. And then make your own wise decisions.

DO NOT WASTE TIME WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT READY FOR CHANGE!

Most of all! Move away as they will bring you down. Be with the ones who inspire you.

Written by Fernando. Edited by Alejandro.

Cheers